31 for 21 Challenge: Day Twenty Two. What's in a Nickname?

A repost: What's in a Nickname?

During our recent hospital stay, I was having a conversation with a nurse on the medical unit where Josiah was being treated.  She was a wonderful nurse & Josiah liked her very much, as did I.  We were chuckling over Josiah's hair (it's wispy and tends to stick straight up - much like a mohawk).  She was commenting that a lot of children with Down Syndrome seem to sport a similar hairdo.  During this conversation, she admitted that the staff tends to call these kids "Doodles."  At face value, I thought 'that's kind of cute.'  Perhaps I should have left it at that.

When I returned home, I thought of that nickname and decided to look up the word "doodle."  I know it means to scribble, etc.  However, I wanted to research the word further.  Here's what I found:

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/doodle defines the noun as being "A figure, design, or scribble drawn or written absent-mindedly.  The informal noun means "fool or simpleton" from the German dudeltopf.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doodle defines the etymology as this: "The word doodle first appeared in the early 17th century to mean a fool or simpleton."

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/doodle defines the noun as "a minor work."

Perhaps, their nickname for DS kids is innocent.  This nurse readily admitted she knew not why they called the kids 'doodles.'  Perhaps the nickname has been used for decades and the newer/younger nurses have never made the effort to determine it's meaning or origin.

I'm not usually a person that focuses on "political correctness" and the like.  I certainly don't care what nicknames people use.

However, I think this is much different.  Here we have professionals using a nickname to define our children.  If the professionals use such a nickname, doesn't it merely fuel the fires of the ignorant?  90% of all DS pregnancies (that receive an early pre-natal diagnosis) result in abortion.  I firmly believe in a woman's right to choose.  However, if some of these abortions occur due to ignorance and misperception, isn't it possible that the professionals (whether they mean to or not) are contributing to societies fear and misperception of Down Syndrome?  I think it does.

Before the general public can ever change it's negative attitude about Down Syndrome, DS kids, and the parents that have chosen to give them life, I believe that nicknames like "Doodles" need to stop being used.

It's just my thought....

"Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn."

- Benjamin Franklin

Facebook and Towheads

On February 6th, Up The Down Staircase officially joined facebook.  Here is the link for anyone who is 'liking' our page there :)

https://www.facebook.com/#!/UpTheDownStaircase

I post a few pictures (or videos) per week on the happenings of Josiah.

It's short.  It's sweet.  It's right to the point.

One of my first questions on FB was this:
"She called Josiah a "tow head". Insulting? Endearing? or simply Ignorant?"

Let me start from the beginning.

Josiah started receiving speech therapy from EI.  On February 26th, the new worker (speech therapist) came out to the house for her very first visit.  

In the course of the visit, she said (to Josiah) "You're the cutest little toe head I've ever seen." 

WHAT????

I had no idea what that meant.  I had never heard that expression before...

I quickly swallowed my tongue in an effort to suppress my mouth.  I immediately reached for my phone and began 'googling' the term.  Here's what I found:

"In colonial times, families grew their own flax to make into fabric for clothing. Transforming the flax into thread was a complicated, involved process with many time-consuming steps. After the flax was harvested, it was soaked in water for several days to soften it so the inner fibers could be removed from the stalk. To separate the long, thin fibers from the shorter, coarser ones, the flax was pulled through a bed of nails or combed in a process called "towing." The shorter fibers that were extricated were of a lesser quality and were called "tow." This led to the term "towheads" to describe people, particularly children, whose hair resembled these strands.

Our favorite online dictionary, MerriamWebster.com, provided further support and evidence for this explanation. The definition for towhead reads:

Main Entry: tow�head
Pronunciation: 'tO-"hed
Function: noun
Date: 1829
a head of hair resembling tow especially in being flaxen or tousled; also: a person having such a head of hair

The dictionary dates "tow" to the 14th century and states that its origin is "Middle English, from Old English tow-spinning."

As I mentioned, I also took to facebook.  I asked what people thought.  Apparently, I was behind the times on this one.  Friends had heard it, knew what it meant, and found it endearing (for the most part).

In this day of political correctness (which I usually don't adhere to), it's sad that I was so quick to question.  But, "tow head?"  It just doesn't sound endearing to me :)

31 for 21 Blog Challenge: DAY SIX: What's in a Nickname?

This is my blog entry from February 14, 2012.  I thought it was worth the repost:

What's in a Nickname?

During our recent hospital stay, I was having a conversation with a nurse on the medical unit where Josiah was being treated.  She was a wonderful nurse & Josiah liked her very much, as did I.  We were chuckling over Josiah's hair (it's wispy and tends to stick straight up - much like a mohawk).  She was commenting that a lot of children with Down Syndrome seem to sport a similar hairdo.  During this conversation, she admitted that the staff tends to call these kids "Doodles."  At face value, I thought 'that's kind of cute.'  Perhaps I should have left it at that.

When I returned home, I thought of that nickname and decided to look up the word "doodle."  I know it means to scribble, etc.  However, I wanted to research the word further.  Here's what I found:

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/doodle defines the noun as being "A figure, design, or scribble drawn or written absent-mindedly.  The informal noun means "fool or simpleton" from the German dudeltopf.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doodle defines the etymology as this: "The word doodle first appeared in the early 17th century to mean a fool or simpleton."

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/doodle defines the noun as "a minor work."

Perhaps, their nickname for DS kids is innocent.  This nurse readily admitted she knew not why they called the kids 'doodles.'  Perhaps the nickname has been used for decades and the newer/younger nurses have never made the effort to determine it's meaning or origin.

I'm not usually a person that focuses on "political correctness" and the like.  I certainly don't care what nicknames people use.

However, I think this is much different.  Here we have professionals using a nickname to define our children.  If the professionals use such a nickname, doesn't it merely fuel the fires of the ignorant?  90% of all DS pregnancies (that receive an early pre-natal diagnosis) result in abortion.  I firmly believe in a woman's right to choose.  However, if some of these abortions occur due to ignorance and misperception, isn't it possible that the professionals (whether they mean to or not) are contributing to societies fear and misperception of Down Syndrome?  I think it does.

Before the general public can ever change it's negative attitude about Down Syndrome, DS kids, and the parents that have chosen to give them life, I believe that nicknames like "Doodles" need to stop being used.

It's just my thought....

"Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn."

- Benjamin Franklin